Um… I totally leaned a new thing today. I was reading a post on a local Mommy Facebook page (My DE people you know the one). Someone was complaining of recent pain randomly postpartum and someone suggested “phantom kicks”.
I have randomly been feeling these and just like this article says it freaked me out. I was like “wait I know I’m not pregnant, for sure not pregnant enough to feel kicks…but wait they say you feel them sooner the second time around”.
But no!! Here it is the answer I didn’t even know was a thing! Phantom kicks they say can be gas, digesting, muscle memory or nerve memory..so freaky either way.
They say some people feel it for years! God Bless. At least I know I’m not pregnant or crazy. I might take the advice from that article and buy a few pregnancy tests to keep just to help me sleep haha!
I’m happy to say my son has been consistently sleeping through the night. 🙌🏻 In his crib! He never wakes up anymore and if he does he’s back to sleep within a minute.
He goes to bed at 7:30pm and wakes up around 6:30am when my alarm goes off.
I was so afraid I was going to have to give up our cuddle time while he was falling asleep. A few nights he’s fallen asleep after I’ve put him in his crib still awake. He tossed and turned in my arms and just couldn’t get comfortable when that’s happened. So I put him in to see if he’s just ready to stretch out.
He’s recently been snuggling in on my chest instead of in the typical infant style holding position (whatever you call it).
He’s also been transitioning to the next class at daycare where he will nap on a mat. They started this week with the mat to practice since we were worried how he would do. Absolutely fine! Sometimes I wonder why I’m even surprised he does so well with everything else.
Bedtime: 7:30pm rocked with a bottle cuddling Mama
4:30am: Woke up screaming – didn’t last 5 minutes went back to sleep.
6:30am: Woke up for the day
He didn’t even drink the bottle I left in case he wanted it when he woke up until the morning. The saying is 3 hard days and they are trained. But man, if this is it I feel like an asshole for not doing this sooner!
(We had a crazy night so our normal “routine” was a little off but he still went to bed in the normal time range)
8:30pm – Fell asleep with bottle cuddling Daddy on the couch. Daddy put him in the crib.
3:27am – Woke up screaming. I looked at the time and said to myself 3:37 I’ll go in. I fell back to sleep because he didn’t even take 10 minutes before he was back to sleep.
4:30am – Woke up and started crying and stopped immediately. He found the 2oz bottle I had left in there for him to find.
6:30am – Woke up talking. I decided since this is the time I normally wake up during the week it was an ok time to get him.
We both lasted the whole night in our own rooms, in our own beds! Night 3 of probably more to come but after everyone’s advice and doing what felt right to me, it looks like we’ve got a good thing happening here!
Thank you to my Mom Squad for all your advice and support as always we will keep doing what works!
Y’all, I’m asking you for help. Or letting you know what may be headed your way. My kid pretty much sleeps through the night most nights but he wakes up at 4:30 (2 hours before my alarm). If it’s a night he wakes up he wakes up at 10pm and then most likely one more time.
We’ve got the bedtime routine down. He is like clockwork when it comes to daytime naptime, eating and bedtime. He always starts the night in his crib. Asleep between 7:30/8 every night.
Bad habits or “sleep dependencies” as they call them I am working on breaking:
Bringing him in bed with us if he wakes up
Giving him a bottle everytime he wakes up
I am not oppose to the cry it out method. It has worked on numerous occasions however I have a limit. It use to be 8 minutes because he would fall asleep by then anything longer he wouldn’t. I’ve upped it to 10.
I put him to bed holding, rocking & with a bottle. If I can keep doing that a little longer and still break the waking up habits I would like to but I understand I may have to give that up.
He’s 12 Months.
Last night he slept until 3am 🙌🏻 I let him cry it out for 10 minutes. He sounded like he was going to throw up by the end of it so I went in and rocked him with a bottle… he was so close to sleeping until I tried to put him back in the crib. It took me until 4am to calm him down, rock him standing & sitting to sleep without a bottle and get him back to sleep. I called in the reinforcements – Elvis & Florida Georgia Line. Next time I’ll start with them 🤦🏻♀️😭😩.
Someone tell me this is just day 2 in the process and the end of the madness is in sight! Any other tips send them my way I’ll try anything.